Dont know who to turn to or what to do
I have raised my 17 yr old granddaughter all her life she has bi-polar horriable manic attacks But the problem is I am so tired of being verbal abuse and hit and called ohorriable names I am 60 yrs old and not in very good health and I am really at my rope end I cant talk to her she screams at me but I cant go on anymore she has no place to go her mother and her dont get along beside her mothers lifestyle is different tahn ours but I am so tired Ill tell her no and she still does what ever she wants then tells me I am a old lady and cant do nothing Its awful to say but ii have prayed I wouldnt wake up next morning Oh she has thoughts of killing me and her mother and little sister I have no one to talk to or someone just listen to me I feel so alone in this thanks for letting me vent alittle it really helps
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Permalink Reply by Lene on -
I read your message and know exactly what you are going through. I have a daughter who in her teens (which are terrible times anyway) but the bi-polar makes things twice as bad. She is older now, however she seems to be a lot better.
When YOUR DAUGHTER gives you a problem have you considered she needs to be hospitalized.? You must call her doctor, case worker etc and don't stop till they admit her to find the source of what my be calling these upsets. YOU MUST TALK TO HER DOCTOR ALONE. You need to get some people on you list to help call when she acts up. I MYSELF would called the mental health association and told them to find her a suitable place for her to go. They have homes she could live in with trained staff that are equipped to help her. You are right you cannot handle her. I was a lot younger than you and my daughter , as times escalated hit me and place me in the hospital for emergency surgery for my liver. She KICKED me so hard she cause my liver to bleed.
I don't envy you, but I learned through tuff love that I had to get her in the system of all systems. I had to call police once also and they placed her in the hospital. She terrified me. TONI is 39 now and her temper rises about once a yr. However, she lives with her sister now. She lives with me sometimes and then she goes to lives with family members.
She is afraid to live on her own because of the isolation it usually puts her in.
HER Liver levels need to be checked and its possible she needs a stronger doseage. Please help yourself and get armed with your community and all it offeres yo. My daughter saw a psychologist in her late 20's that really armed her with good cooping skills. Skills that now she applies.
I hope some of this helped. I just know so well what;s going on...Lene
PS I now live with dystonia
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Permalink Reply by linny on -
thank you so much for your kind words she has been in the hospital the day before thanksgiving she hung herself thank god her boyfriend father came by he found her and performed cpr on her but now she threatons me with shes going to kill her self so I go in panic mode the other night she took a hand full of pills this is so hard but thank you again
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I will pray for you hun and ask God to please help you and give you new Ideas. If she has gone that far to try and hurt herself, she needs to be hospitalised. She has done enough for you to put her away and get some help. Please thing about it. She has a death wish....she is crying out for HELP. Lenee
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Permalink Reply by s_belle07 on -
Ms, Linny I have a neice that has recently been diagnosed as being Bi- polar she is exhibiting the same symptoms that you are saying your Granddaughter is. She lives with her adoptive Mom and Dad which are my brother and sister_in-law she sounds like she is not on meds my neice did do something to her adoptive mom one nite she hit her in the head with a baseball bat when she would'nt allow her to go somewhere. So now she is in the judical system, if you feel that she is a threat to you. You should feel that way because they can't control their anger you need to either inform the law or someone who can come to help you. and make sure this is told to her mental health conselor as well it is imperative they know what is going on. My heart goes out for you in this matter will be praying for you as well.............. Good Luck!!!!
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