Is it good to be a fighter?

As some of you probably know, I'm a fan and regular reader of Tara Parker Pope's blog, Well, on the New York Times.

Today, she writes about the language we use when we're talking about cancer, and the expectations that language creates. She points specifically to the media coverage of Senator Ted Kennedy's brain tumor: Senator Kennedy is a fighter; he's upbeat and energetic.

Does this language back cancer patient's into a corner? Is there so much pressure to "fight" cancer, that patients feel they can't admit to any feelings besides optimism?

I also wonder if the "fighter" metaphor also makes it harder for us psychologically when someone we love dies from cancer. A fight is something won or lost, where the participants employ all the skills and strength they have in order to come out the winner. But with cancer, sometimes there isn't anything you can do.

What do you think? Has it been harder to deal with cancer, or care for a loved one with cancer, because of this notion that patients must fight and battle cancer? Does that language help patients deal with a frightening diagnosis? Or are these just words that don't really effect or define the cancer patient's experience?

I look forward to hearing your thoughts!