The Mythology of Sex--It's like teaching car safety with 100 accident photos and two sentences about seatbelts

We are educating fear into our youth without giving them the tools to protect themselves.

Allow me to explain. In one of the forums I frequent, there are multiple daily posts that follow about the same format:
I'm on the pill and we used a condom but last week I took a pill a couple hours late and now I'm worried I might be pregnant help!

Where do people get the idea that it is so easy to get pregnant? Only about 20% of people who are TRYING to get pregnant do so in the first month they try. This means that making an effort to get pregnant is still 80% effective against pregnancy over a 1-month period. There are only a few days a month that a woman is actually fertile. The pill is over 99% effective ALONE, and a condom used properly that does not break is basically 100% effective.

IT'S NOT THAT EASY, GUYS

So really, where DO they get these ideas?

School, media, family. Our society has a love/hate relationship with sex. And we don't want our teens having it, oh no. So making sex seem dangerous is good practice, right? There are a lot of myths out there, believed by a massive segment of our society. For example:

A woman can get pregnant any time. False--there is a 3-5 day fertility window in each cycle. It's not in the same place for everyone, but it's only a few days.
You can get pregnant on your period. Mixed--if you have an unusual cycle, you might be able to. But most people can't.
It only takes one sperm to get you pregnant. False--sperm produce enzymes that help them break into the ovum. It takes the enzymes from hundreds of sperm to get one in.
You can get pregnant from pre-ejaculatory fluid. False--or at least highly unlikely. There are few to no sperm in pre-ejaculate, and those few are not going to be enough to get into the egg. Odds are terrible.
Taking a pill an hour or two late compromises your protection. False--it's simply not true.

From reading some of these posts, it seems as though people are being taught that sperm can practically swim through your skin and seek out your eggs like some sort of mad microscopic homing pigeons bent on fertilization. It just doesn't happen that way!

To compound the problem, abstinence-only education means that kids are not getting properly educated on how to have sex safely. They really don't know how effective birth control is. They don't know how to use condoms properly. They don't know that there are methods out there other than "the Pill" (as a major IUD advocate: IUDs could be great for young people if they didn't get such a bad rap in this country. Yes, the risks of serious complications if you get an infection are higher, but that's what we have condoms for). We are doing the next generation a terrible disservice by not giving them the tools to be safe. Running a campaign of fear is not the answer. It doesn't stop young people from having sex. It just leads to hundreds of "omg am i preggers" posts on health forums.